Part 18: Success at Home But Not at School or Vice Versa
Sometimes a child is experiencing more success at school than he is at home. The child may be responding better to the consistent schedules, visual materials and resources available in the school setting. Consult with the teachers at school about the materials, schedules, routines, and cues they are using and ask if they can duplicate them for home training. You may need to adapt the school resources to fit your life at home.
To help the child generalize the school success to home, the educators can have the child use different bathrooms at school. Using the same words, concepts, and visuals at home that the school is using can also be helpful. Starting with small steps at home and practicing taking toilet trips to different bathrooms at home may help the child become more comfortable with new environments.
For some individuals, toilet training is easier to accomplish at home. School may involve expectations and demands that differ from home and may create some overstimulation, anxiety, or pressure. Regular communication between home and school is necessary so that parents can share what is working at home that might be implemented at school and vice versa. To maximize the child’s success, both settings should use the same language, materials, and schedule whenever possible. As the child makes progress, continued contact between home and school should include a discussion of how the child is doing and if there is a need for any changes in the plan.
If your child is still resistant to toilet training at home, you may decide to wait until routines are set and the child is having some success with the school program before starting at home.
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Toilet Training Tool Kit
- Parts 1 & 2: Getting Started
- Part 3: Toilet Training Steps
- Part 4: Developing a Toileting Plan
- Part 5: Habit Training
- Part 6: Creating a Calm & Welcoming Bathroom Environment
- Part 7: Communicating with Your Child
- Part 8: Fear of New Situations
- Part 9: Using Rewards
- Part 10: Toilet Training Away From Home
- Part 11: Cooperation Between Home and School or Daycare
- Part 12: Dealing With Your Own Anxieties and Frustrations
- Parts 13 & 14: Interfering Factors
- Part 15: Diapers & Pull-Ups During Toilet Training
- Parts 16 & 17: Toilet Training Older Children
- Part 18: Success at Home But Not at School or Vice Versa
- Part 19: Use of Books, Videos & Other Visuals
- Part 20: Toilet Training at Night
- Part 21: Handling Accidents
- Part 22: Increasing Independence With Toileting
- Part 23: Using a Visual Schedule
- Parts 24 & 25: Regression & Troubleshooting
- Parts 26 & 27: References & Resources


